UJ's Hamster Died. We're All That's Left...
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Need the money? No, but we're not refusing it. The freezer drawer of our fridge fritzed out Tues evening. We're looking for a replacement unit about the same size (not much space for a huge one, and we're only two people), and that's going to pay for it. We could pay for it on our own, but this puts the money back out in the local economy like it's supposed to, and lets us pay for the bathroom re-do.
She did, November 13 (a Friday, of course!). It has taken a while, but I'm adjusting, and dealing with the normal issues that accompany these things. Thank you for your condolence.
Sorry for your loss. Hope everything works out for you with the headstone.
Thank you. It's been different. We were together 28 years, married for 25, so this is like a whole new life. Not one I particularly desired, but we deal with what we are given.disco.moon wrote: ↑Sat Mar 20, 2021 4:52 pmI'm sorry about your wife, that must be so tough. E-hug. <3
Thank you. The headstone issue will be fine. I have savings to cover it without putting me in any financial jeopardy, just figured I'd use part of the policy to pay for the rest, while putting back what I already used to cover the funeral expenses.Reservoir Dog wrote: ↑Sat Mar 20, 2021 5:09 pmSorry for your loss. Hope everything works out for you with the headstone.
Why would you get screwed over for the life insurance?
i hope like hell you are worrying about nothing. but if anything weird happens or anything that gives you further concern that something might be wrong, say something. That would be complete bullshit. I can't think of a single reason why her employer would have cancelled an insurance policy simply because things were turning for the worse. The employer wouldn't get any money for cancelling it. The only thing would be if they skipped a payment and that put it into default, which would be a legal matter, if i was you. there would have to be some kind of written contract with instructions for notification from the company to your wife if they had any reason to either cancel or stop payment on the policy.Zerobeat wrote: ↑Sat Mar 20, 2021 7:36 pmThank you. The headstone issue will be fine. I have savings to cover it without putting me in any financial jeopardy, just figured I'd use part of the policy to pay for the rest, while putting back what I already used to cover the funeral expenses.Reservoir Dog wrote: ↑Sat Mar 20, 2021 5:09 pmSorry for your loss. Hope everything works out for you with the headstone.
Why would you get screwed over for the life insurance?
The reason I think I may be getting screwed over is kind of complicated, and I may be worrying about nothing. I submitted the required paperwork to her former employer (who had kept her insurances active while she was off, as she had planned to return), after they had given me the forms and her eligibility papers. That was early December. I called the employer, who promised to look into it early in the week. No word. Called the Insurance Co. to check on the status of the claim, the automated system cannot find record of the wife's account. I have to call next week to speak with a human, but I just don't get a warm and fuzzy feeling about all this. Other than this matter, her employer was great with checking on her, and keeping her coverages up. I honestly cannot complain about any of that, and it is exactly how a company should treat employee's. I hope I'm just being a little paranoid.
Thanks for breaking the spell. I've been staring at her wobbly turd cutter ever since she mooned us....
My condolences Mr Zerobeat. I'm glad you are adjusting. I've never been married but I can only imagine losing a spouse is horrible.
fuck my man. i am really sorry to hear that. i hope it she didnt suffer. it cant be easy. i would be fucked up if i lost mine...my ex-wife on the other hand...now talk about the clouds disappearing
Thank you. I'm sorry to hear of the passings in your family, as well. Best of wishes for your cousin.nerd_alert wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 4:34 amMy condolences Mr Zerobeat. I'm glad you are adjusting. I've never been married but I can only imagine losing a spouse is horrible.
I still think we are just in an extra 3 months of 2020. My brother's (that passed) girlfriend passed away mid March. A cancer she had years ago came back and I don't think she even knew it. Doctors think it came back 5 years ago. She hadn't been taking care of herself since my brother passed, down to 96 pounds. Son took her to the hospital and they found the cancer. It had spread to her brain and was growing around major blood vessels. Nothing they could do for her.
Then one of my cousins found a hard growth on her left hand. A recent biopsy showed it is an aggressive cancer. She got a CT scan this past week and thankfully it has not spread. She is scheduled for an amputation this coming Thu.
I'm trying to figure out how to suggest to her to get a cool robotic hand like Inspector Gadget.
Not enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
Sure.
i have been poor and it fucking blows. this will sound shitty but being poor is a choice. i chose not to be.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:23 amNot enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
I don’t see getting out of poverty being so easy.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 2:46 pmi have been poor and it fucking blows. this will sound shitty but being poor is a choice. i chose not to be.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:23 amNot enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
no one said it was easy. as a matter of fact its super fucking hard. it was so hard for me i didnt know if the biproduct which was more than money was worth it. as i said i chose not to be poor and it was a lot of fucking working. its super easy to do nothing and not do the things to make a difference. i chose to grind it out and it certainly came with its own set of problems.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:36 pmI don’t see getting out of poverty being so easy.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 2:46 pmi have been poor and it fucking blows. this will sound shitty but being poor is a choice. i chose not to be.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:23 amNot enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
I still don’t see it as a choice. For some people, they have abilities that, if they put them to work, could do very well. I have friends like that, they chose to spend their time getting stoned and never went anywhere. They had a choice.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:42 pmno one said it was easy. as a matter of fact its super fucking hard. it was so hard for me i didnt know if the biproduct which was more than money was worth it. as i said i chose not to be poor and it was a lot of fucking working. its super easy to do nothing and not do the things to make a difference. i chose to grind it out and it certainly came with its own set of problems.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:36 pmI don’t see getting out of poverty being so easy.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 2:46 pmi have been poor and it fucking blows. this will sound shitty but being poor is a choice. i chose not to be.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:23 amNot enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
in my 25 years running my own business, i have never had one single person, employee, son, daughter, etc ever show any kind of interest in one day running it. There are opportunities all over the place for a person that is highly motivated and really REALLY wants to succeed. And no education is required.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 7:40 pmI still don’t see it as a choice. For some people, they have abilities that, if they put them to work, could do very well. I have friends like that, they chose to spend their time getting stoned and never went anywhere. They had a choice.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:42 pmno one said it was easy. as a matter of fact its super fucking hard. it was so hard for me i didnt know if the biproduct which was more than money was worth it. as i said i chose not to be poor and it was a lot of fucking working. its super easy to do nothing and not do the things to make a difference. i chose to grind it out and it certainly came with its own set of problems.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:36 pmI don’t see getting out of poverty being so easy.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 2:46 pmi have been poor and it fucking blows. this will sound shitty but being poor is a choice. i chose not to be.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:23 amNot enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
There are a lot of poor people born into poor neighborhoods with terrible schools and they may also be, to be direct, stupid too. They don’t have any tools to get them out of where they are. There’s not really much choice there.
the only tool i had was me. i went to the worst schools in the county. i call bullshit on not having a choice. i know plenty of people that rose out of it. im not saying its easy or anyone can do it. what i am saying is that if you make getting a head as important as breathing you can do almost anything. i went bk in 2008, i lost everything i built for several reasons. i was a raging drunk on top of it. i had to piss in the sink at my house because they turned my water off and i had no power. i had no help and lost everything. i couldn't file unemployment because i was always self employed. i made a promise to me that i would never be in that position again and here i am.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 7:40 pmI still don’t see it as a choice. For some people, they have abilities that, if they put them to work, could do very well. I have friends like that, they chose to spend their time getting stoned and never went anywhere. They had a choice.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:42 pmno one said it was easy. as a matter of fact its super fucking hard. it was so hard for me i didnt know if the biproduct which was more than money was worth it. as i said i chose not to be poor and it was a lot of fucking working. its super easy to do nothing and not do the things to make a difference. i chose to grind it out and it certainly came with its own set of problems.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 4:36 pmI don’t see getting out of poverty being so easy.pork wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 2:46 pmi have been poor and it fucking blows. this will sound shitty but being poor is a choice. i chose not to be.Wut wrote: ↑Mon Mar 22, 2021 1:23 amNot enough people on this board have had the experience of being poor.JackRabbit_Slim wrote: ↑Sun Mar 21, 2021 2:58 am It baffles me how $1400 can make a difference to anyone.
There are a lot of poor people born into poor neighborhoods with terrible schools and they may also be, to be direct, stupid too. They don’t have any tools to get them out of where they are. There’s not really much choice there.
