JD Dunce
Posted: Fri Jul 26, 2024 4:39 pm
Or is it Just Dunce Vance.
No matter, how long before 45 dumps him?
No matter, how long before 45 dumps him?
Do you think that in practice, people who tend to be violent toward their partners and children are receptive to that?
there's no way I could know the answer to that. But what I do know is that if you give a person an easy solution they will take it most of the time. its the hard solutions that take a little work that people tend to avoid.
I'm not disagreeing with that. But that belief is divorced from reality. You can't tell me you don't know/knew someone who's abusive in their home life. We all have known them. That person is the limiting factor in the situation we're talking about - you can talk about the need for self-work all you like, but that type of person isn't likely to even view themselves as the problem, let alone entertain the idea of counseling.Animal wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 2:18 pmthere's no way I could know the answer to that. But what I do know is that if you give a person an easy solution they will take it most of the time. its the hard solutions that take a little work that people tend to avoid.
so I assume you also agree that rehabilitating someone in a jail is a waste of time?Geist wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 4:04 pmI'm not disagreeing with that. But that belief is divorced from reality. You can't tell me you don't know/knew someone who's abusive in their home life. We all have known them. That person is the limiting factor in the situation we're talking about - you can talk about the need for self-work all you like, but that type of person isn't likely to even view themselves as the problem, let alone entertain the idea of counseling.Animal wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 2:18 pmthere's no way I could know the answer to that. But what I do know is that if you give a person an easy solution they will take it most of the time. its the hard solutions that take a little work that people tend to avoid.
You think it took the sexual revolution for people to realize they were unhappy with their marriage situation (especially abused spouses). You can at least acknowledge that it was a stupid thing to say, regardless of how you feel about divorces.
Largely, yes. I used to be a CO and the lifers/long-termers were the ones who were serious about the job programs, which IMO is the only habilitative aspect of prison.Animal wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 4:09 pmso I assume you also agree that rehabilitating someone in a jail is a waste of time?Geist wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 4:04 pmI'm not disagreeing with that. But that belief is divorced from reality. You can't tell me you don't know/knew someone who's abusive in their home life. We all have known them. That person is the limiting factor in the situation we're talking about - you can talk about the need for self-work all you like, but that type of person isn't likely to even view themselves as the problem, let alone entertain the idea of counseling.Animal wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 2:18 pmthere's no way I could know the answer to that. But what I do know is that if you give a person an easy solution they will take it most of the time. its the hard solutions that take a little work that people tend to avoid.
personally, I would never venture off into a topic with so many scenarios. I don't see what could be gained from it. that's why I would never have an opinion on abortion or any of those kind of topics. I do think it was a stupid thing to say. But I also think that carrying it to the next extreme and summarizing his statement as though he is in favor of raising children in violent homes is equally stupid.Burn1dwn wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 4:19 pmYou think it took the sexual revolution for people to realize they were unhappy with their marriage situation (especially abused spouses). You can at least acknowledge that it was a stupid thing to say, regardless of how you feel about divorces.
As a child of divorce, my life got exponentially better after my parents split. Listening to arguing and fighting everyday is no way for children to grow up healthy either. So sticking it out for kids is not the solution either.
whatever he's trying to say, i think he needs to learn that these aren't really the kind of topics that we elect people to be worried about.CHEEZY17 wrote: ↑Mon Jul 29, 2024 8:08 pm I'd like to see the whole clip but I dont think he is advocating staying in violent marriages. My take from that is that he is advocating putting the hard work in to make the relationship work; not quitting on a whim. More along the lines of those folks that end committed relationships because it hit a rough patch. I get that may not always be a possibility as some relationships undeniably should be dissolved but I think his larger point is that in most cases the kids are probably going to be better off if the parents can work through the rough patch and create a good home. And again. I'm not saying that 2 folks that clearly cant get along is better-its not.