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I love talking about what i barely know about music.

My wife died of a massive heart attack Friday around 2 PDT, I found her with our three dogs licking her and trying to revive her. Worst thing I have ever seen. She loved music as much as I did, pretty sure she married me because I was/am the best drummer around these parts.

Best concert I ever saw, Stevie Ray Vaughan at the George. The year before he died.

I have seen Santana 3 times, the Dead, Jerry, Phish 13 times, Blues Traveler, Lenny Kravetiz (sp), Cheap Trick, Quiet Riot with Ozzy's band Rudy Sarzo et al, and all the grunge. My first wife and I moved to Seattle in 1990, right as the shit went down. I hated Lane Stayley, and we figured Soundgarden was the best of the best. But bullshit being as it was, Motherlovebone, Mudhoney and 3 years bitch never made any money. And soundgarden seemed to be a novelty. I remember the first time my friend played me a Nirvana tape, and I did say "that is better than what I hear now".

I only say any of this, which I have said before, because my wife loved Coldplay. And she made me go a couple of years ago, and I have never experienced anything like it. The crowd sings every song the whole time. Not a sing along, every word, every song the whole show. I have watch the hippies love Phish, but it is not even close. Every fucking word every fucking song. I am so glad she forced to see them, and I am a fan for life.

Now I will show you what I like..

Damn, Hawk. My condolences.

Antknot wrote: ↑Wed Aug 27, 2025 5:07 am Damn, Hawk. My condolences.

Thank you.

Sorry to hear that Hawk. Can't imagine what you must be going through. I won't bore you with too many words since they only do so much. Just keep thinking of the good times with her and celebrate her life.

nerd_alert wrote: ↑Wed Aug 27, 2025 5:13 am Sorry to hear that Hawk. Can't imagine what you must be going through. I won't bore you with too many words since they only do so much. Just keep thinking of the good times with her and celebrate her life.

She was a wonderful partner. It was the second both of our marriages. It was the best, I am not sure how I can go forward but we/I have 3 dogs and they have been my saving grace/ Plus my son has been in out, 34 years old and such a strength for me.

Paul guys are not drummer,not live my man Carter

Damn. Sorry, Hawk.

Devastating news, I hope you have a strong circle to help as grieve.

Best wishes...

Sorry man...truly am.

You forced me to remember my login info. Just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm sorry Hawk.

Geez, Hawk. Im so sorry for your loss. I cant even begin to imagine what youre going through

It still seems surreal. I have a team of ladies planning her celebration of life Sat Sept 13 at 1 at the Roslyn Eagles. And I just don't know what the fuck. I am pulling out her art that is here, looking for pictures for the event and her Obit, and I am still WHAT THE FUCK

It is crazy, we have three dogs and they have been my life blood. Lots of cuddles and naps. And I have probably never napped since I was a kid.

Thanks for the kind words folks, it does help.